I come back to this place from time to time. It's a mental check-in place. When I arrive, I check all my excuses at the door. This trip I am leaving behind a list of excuses that I have to keep me safe, comfortable and hidden.
- I can't go to yoga because I really need to make dinner
- I'm not going to that class because I need one weekend morning to myself
- I'm not going to give feedback to that person because let's face it, they won't change anyways and it will be a waste of time
- I am just going to buy this because I don't have time to make it
- I need to get more sleep, so I don't have time to read before bed
- I might want that some day, so I won't get rid of it now
- I really need a hair cut, but I don't have time to figure out when and where
- I need money, so I can't say no to this project, even though I'll hate it
Listen, these aren't new excuses, I use them all the time. I am just tired of hearing them. I am tired of being mad that I haven't done yoga when I know I HAVE time to do it. I am tired of complaining instead of giving feedback. I am tired of eating packaged cookies and not making my own. I am tired of using sleep as a reason for not reading because we all know I watch too much TV anyways, pick up your dang book, Cord! I am tired of holding on to crap that I might someday use or might someday want. I am way over the length of my hair and I am tired of saying YES when I really need to say NO. Money is not my excuse, we are just fine, fear of disappointing is my excuse.
Hello door, meet my excuses. I am going to leave them here because they are weighing me down and I am ready to let go.
Start listening to yourself when you say the word BUT and notice what follows.
"I want to go to yoga BUT..."
"I tried to read that book BUT..."
"I was going to say no BUT...."
Following a BUT there are usually excuses. Some excuses are the truth and some are a lie.
The truth "I tried to read that book but it was too gory for me."
The lie "I want to read that book but I have no time."
Now here is the part where you decided to let go. Maybe you really have no time. Every second of your day is scheduled. Letting go involves listening to that excuse and deciding if it is the truth or a lie. Do you really have no time? Not even 30 minutes in the pick up line at school or in bed instead of looking at Instagram? It's your call if you believe the excuse or not. When you get tired of believing them, you can just stop using them. When you notice them pop up, check them at the door and move on.
Get it? Try it! Let me know how it goes!
Oh, and check out PART TWO